It has been a little over a couple of months now since the last update. Nothing of much happened until recently.
My interactions with girl D & E has stopped. For both cases, I was the last person that sent a message. I do not know if the girls simply stopped using POF or lost interest in me. In any case, I have not seen them online for a long time based on my searches. For girl D, I still see that she is somewhat active on OkCupid as her compatibility score is changing at times. Due to a long time of no interaction with D & E, it is safe to say that they can be considered as dropped.
From that point, there would be no action from me in terms of finding someone. The selection of girls continues to be low as the users I see continues to be the same. There have been new users coming up, but they do not meet my personal requirements or their’s.
It would be many weeks later that I would get something happening again. I get a message from a new girl. Doing some searching, this girl (who I will call girl F for this purpose) did look at my profile so the chances of being a scammer is low. In her message, she says hi & asks how my day is going. In the end of it, she tells me that she wants to know more about me. During my research, there were things that I had some personal concerns about.
Girl F’s profile says she is a thin Caucasian who is taller than me & on the other side of the country. There is a lot of things that do not meet my personal requirements. Although my preference is a female that is Asian, I am open to other ethnicity. The height is a bit of a problem for me since I am looking for a female that is around the same height as me or shorter. I am a bit sensitive of my height even though it is not really a major thing overall. But the distance is problematic. She is in Ontario. I am in British Columbia. That is a huge distance. My preference is someone local or a city or 2 down from me. Looking at her profile, I recall seeing something similar before. It kind of hit me based on her pictures & description. If you go to my part 5 of POF, you will see why near the end of that post.
As usual, I did not immediately respond to girl F. I waited it out for a couple of days just to be sure it is not a scam. The message stayed & I finally decided to reply back. I replied saying that I am doing fine & asked about her. From there, I told her how I am a bit surprised that she would contact me from the other side of Canada. She would reply back asking if it is a long distance love is a problem.
Personally, I do not think long distance relationships are a problem. For me, I have some personal knowledge that it does not turn out well. It is not from my personal experience, but stories from my friends. They did not have much success from it. I have heard & read some success stories on long distance relationships, but it is a bit hard for me to relate to due to my friends’ experiences. My reply to girl F about it is saying that I do not have problems with it & I do know people that have long distance relationships. However, I did not tell her how they ended up. I added that I would figure that most people on pof will be looking for someone within their province.
Girl F continues by telling me that she doesn’t want a forever texting relationship & feels that it gives time & distance to learn one another better. From there if things work out, meeting each other would be the next step. She has a strong belief for long term relationships working out.
Communicating with F is a bit difficult at times. Questions asked to her are not answered sometimes. Sometimes they are answered, answered in a later message, or not at all. But I did managed to get some descent info from her. One of it is her real name (which I gave in return as she asked me). She has her own business in wholesale & has an traditional approach for love. The type of man she is looking for is basically a strong man with a good focus on what he wants now & future. To sum it up, F is actually from New York; not Toronto as her profile says. Apparently, she was in Toronto for a visit.
Learning F’s real name & her business, I did some research on her. She even tells me to check out her business. Without letting her know, I did look it up. The business listing is there, but very basic. Her having a master degree in business, there is no actual e-commerce approach on the site. Just information on where the business is & the contact. I did manage to come across her Facebook & Twitter accounts as well. Her Twitter is basically about 5% business or about her & 95% retweets. Facebook has nothing but her company. Although the information on everything I found lines up, I was still a little bit on alert.
To keep things going, I did answer her questions honestly. The type of girl I am looking for, my background, where I am from, & my work. I did not go beyond what she asked for. Just a bit brief enough to keep things going.
To further the situation, F asks if I have Google Hangout as she was heading back to New York & texting is expensive for her. She tells me that we can chat on it every time & it has video chat features. I was puzzled on the texting part & told her about it in a question. But I told her that I don’t have Google Hangout & suggest maybe using email due to time difference & our schedules. However, F shot it down & continued her push for me to get Hangout while saying we can work out the time difference. She will give me her email address to add her once I have it. I delayed my messaging to her for a few days due to work & personal life getting in my way.
That is pretty much where I stopped at this point. Later on, I would discover that I do have Hangout on my phone. I probably downloaded it without knowing or it came with my phone since it is an Android based phone. I will have her add me or me add her in the future. Although I have been told that it is similar to Skype, I do not know how the app works. If it works only in real time conversation, it may not work out for me. If it works like a messaging system like Whatsapp, it would be best for me as I can take my time with it when I have time available.
I will continue to share my updates on the situation as things are picking up again. When I have enough information, I will make another post.