This post will talk about my continuing experiences with girl F. The experience does not continue in POF. It goes outside the site. Before I get into it, I should mention that there had been no other interaction with any other girls in POF during that time. Expect for 1 small one.
Girl F continues to push me to get on Google Hangouts. I did not tell her that I have the app, but I decided to hold out a bit. It would be days later that I would tell her that I got the app & gave my email address to add. She would later send an invite within a day & I accepted. She later tries to get me on Hangouts within a day later. She messages me on pof & sends me an email saying that she is on Hangout right now. Due to time zone differences & timing, I email her saying I missed out.
It would continue for a bit until I manage to find the time to chat with F on Hangouts. It would occur during nights where it would be close to midnight for her. Most of the conversations would be getting to know each other a bit. Plus, continuations from our POF messages. Mainly her approach on love & her business. From my end, how I am having problems finding a girl.
From my conversations with F, I continue to learn some inconsistent information. In one conversation, she tells me that she is currently at church. In her POF profile, she says that she does not have any religious backgrounds. I also continue to find her messages to be a bit difficult to understand at times. Being someone that is born in American & gone to university, I would expect better writing. I do not know if she is using internet slang, just plain sloppy, or spent most of her time in a foreign country where English is not a primary language. I never questioned or challenged any of these things to her.
Girl F pushes a lot for video chat, but I keep declining it. Again, timing. At night, I do not look my best. But F tells me that she does not care about appearances, but heart. Basically, beauty within. She remains to have a traditional approach on love. However, it would be very difficult to do video chats because of time zones. A 3 hour time difference is not easy for the both of us. Because she goes to work early (I assume since her store opens at 8am), I cannot do it late since it would be past midnight for her & I cannot do it earlier as it would be dinner time for me.
Speaking of timing, I would get Hangout messages from her early in the morning. Good morning messages at around 4am. I would not see the messages until later since I am still asleep. By the time I reply back, it is already or close to afternoon for her. On my days off, she would be at work. On her days off, I would be at work. F continues to heavily push on doing video chats. So hard, that it would pretty much end our conversation.
The last time we talked was us trying to set up a video chat session later at night. She ends it with okay & that was the end. We have not talk to each other since then. As of this post, it has been over a month & a half.
At this point, it is safe to say that girl F is now out. My personal preferences may be the reason for the loss. I am looking for someone in my area, shorter or about my height, & an Asian background. The last part is not a “must”, but the first 2 is close to a must. At least within my area is must. An other reason is her strong desire to do video chats. I do not understand why she is so into it when we barely know each other for a couple of weeks on long distance messaging.
I will continue posting updates when I get something new. I may contact girl F in the future, but I most likely do not see that happening. If we do it at a friends level, I may think about it. Our conversation did not make much to develop a love relationship between us anyways. I found her to be very aggressive & out of character from what she is from her profile. It seemed like she was actually rushing to find love when she says she is not.
As a bonus here, I decided to contact a girl that I found from my searches on POF. Looking at her profile, I had some interest in. Instead of a somewhat lengthy first message, I decided to go short like the messages that I have been getting from girls. A simple “Hi, how are you” message. There was not much in the girl’s profile, so it had to be a short message anyways. Up to now, I got no response back which is over a week. It should be safe to say that this girl has no interest in me.
There have been no indication that this girl has looked at my profile as well unless she turned on invisible mode. One mistake that I did do is sending the message while I was in invisible mode. I forgot about it & should have turned it off. If I did, this girl would get an indication that I am real & have seen her profile if she decided to look me up. My chances in getting a reply back from her may have been higher. But I do not see anyone messaging back to someone that is at least a week old unless that person has not logged in for a long time. This was probably a lost opportunity from my error.
This is probably the last post for POF as I plan to end this experiment in the near future.