Just a little thing that I did on JapanCupid. I know that I mentioned that I dropped it from the experiment, but there is a change. It’s not really a big thing, but it is something that I should have done a long time ago.
As I mentioned before, I kept using JapanCupid but at a very rare occurrence. Although I dropped it off, I kept it for international friends & penpal searches. But I decided to go back to it to see what’s there. Not a huge change.
It remains very low in the number of girls on there in terms of what I’m looking for & in my area. To make things more worse, they don’t go online much according to their login history. If you look at it closely, it is way too long.
Thinking of trying it again, I redid my profile. It’s not the same as my OKC & POF profiles. But it has some of the stuff in my profile that won’t make it look too different from those 2 accounts. The profile has me mentioning that I am looking to date & make friends/penpals. After completing my profile, I decided to message a girl that got my attention.
The girl I got me attention has a bunch of nice personality traits that I liked. Our beliefs about love in terms of not cheating & lying matches was one of them. There are some things that I don’t match with her in terms of hobbies & interests & I don’t know how far she is from my location.
The search engine only gives a minimum distance of within 50km. That is huge based on where I am as within 50km can go down past the US border. Close to Seattle almost. The potential girl is listed in Vancouver, but that is a huge area. It can span to North Vancouver which is nearly a hour drive for me from where I am. Nevertheless, I took a chance & messaged her.
In my message, I basically said that I like what I saw in her profile but not in detail. I also mentioned how I noticed that she hasn’t been online for a long time & hope she is willing to chat with me if she is still looking & not in a relationship. Ended it off saying that I respect her decision if she doesn’t want to talk to me if I’m not who I’m looking for. After sending it, I nearly forgot something that JapanCupid does.
After sending the messaging, I got a message notice saying how the message is locked & can’t be viewed unless the girl or I become pay members. I remember this situation from before, but didn’t remember how it worked. If you don’t remember how it works, let me refresh you.
Cause I’m not a paid member, my messages will not work. I will not be able to send or read messages to & from standard members. If a paid member sends me a message, I can read it but I can’t write back. If I send a message to a paid member, that person can read it & write back. In terms of reading that reply back, that part I’m not sure. I assume I can read it if I read the rules correctly. Because the girl that I send the message to can’t read my message, I thought about paying for membership.
Looking at the membership prices, I didn’t expect to see those price ranges. There are options for a month, 3 months & a year. Regardless of more months being more cheaper, the prices aren’t. There is a gold tier & a platinum tier. The price difference is around $5 a month. But the price for gold is $34.99 per month. This is Canadian dollars. To me that is a lot! Considering the number of girls that I’m looking for & their frequency being online, this is not worth it. Even for experiment purpose, too costly. Other dating sites are much cheaper. More than half JapanCupid’s prices. I did mention that I don’t plan to put money down on these dating sites. I was willing to make an exception for this one since it was going out of the experiment.
So I decided to leave it & use the “interested” function on the girl to let her know that I am trying to communicate with her. I don’t know if she will see that I have sent a message to her (or even get a notification about it), but I put the interest thing up to at least try to get her to read my profile & show that I’m not a bot in some way.
When I put up that interest & message, she didn’t log in for 3 months. Two weeks later, I find that she logged in. But she won’t do anything. There was no sign of her looking at my profile in response. Don’t know if she got a notification that she got a message as well. So I assume she has no interest in me or she has a lot of notifications from other people from a 3 months of absence & didn’t reach mine’s. Working that list. Either way, no response.
In her profile, she mention being a temporary. Not sure if she means on temporary working visa or something. I just did the messaging & interest nevertheless. After sending the message, I had an idea that could overcome the communication issue.
To “resolve” the communication issue where I & a potential partner would face, I decided to add into my profile my OKC & POF names while mentioning the messaging problem. I don’t know if it is a good idea. I could be violating something on JapanCupid about mentioning other dating sites that don’t belong to them. It could be seen as an advertising pull. For now, I will do this as it will help me see who is real & who is a bot. The next day, I got a message from a woman outside my range. That for sure is a bot. If she was real, she would have know about the messaging problem in my profile. Anyways, so far my account is safe. Problem with this method though is the other person having either having OKC or POF. If they don’t, what are the chances of them signing up to one of those sites just to contact me? They will probably just phase me out & move on to the next person.
Again, this is not a major subject for this experiment. My expectations for results are still very low due to the restrictions placed by JapanCupid. If something does happen, I may put this back into the game.