I apologize for the lack of updates here about the online dating experiment. I do plan to get something up for results. But this is not the time for that. I want to talk about something that I read in a news article this past week which was interesting. The article was talking about dating.
The article I read was written by a professional matchmaker of 5 years I think it was. She writes a lengthy article about her work experience. Instead of repeating what she wrote, I will just pull out the important points & kind of summarize it. I don’t remember exactly the details, but I got the main points at least.
Basically, the article talks about how some races have better luck in dating than other races. It’s also based on gender. Getting to the point, Asian men & black women have it worse. The ones that have it best are white men. This finding seems to apply to North America as the evidences that support it are based on pop culture. The arguments are Hollywood.
You see TV shows & movies that have the main lead male character in love/drama stories being heavily white males. You don’t see an Asian guy in those roles. They are pretty much seen as action kung fu guys instead. No love, all action.
Another thing about Asian men is about them being not too attractive. This kind of supports the Hollywood evidence. Another argument is being plain in appearance & common looking. Also, it seems the ladies prefer pasta over rice. Having too much rice ain’t nice I guess.
Speaking of Asians, the article talks about how Asian women are a preferred choice. Mainly because of them being more feminine & more sexual. Thus, a high choice for men.
For black women, they are portrayed as aggressive & more masculine by Hollywood. When they say masculine, they mean kind of dominate & tough. Although you do see black women in main female lead roles in love stories, it is classified differently. Apparently the “lighter” black women are more favourable. Probably because they are a bit more “white”. The “darker” black women are the ones showing the negative parts. So people prefer milk or white chocolate over dark chocolate.
A test that was mention was a black woman using an online service. I think it was OkCupid, a service that I’m currently using for my experiment. The woman mentions how she got very little hits with her profile & pics. When she decided to photoshop her pics to be less “black” & more “white”, the number of hits dramatically went up. However, her profile remains the same.
Now, I’m not saying that I’m totally screwed in my experiment because I’m Asian. I got many Asian male friends that are married. So, the article is not 100% correct. Even the writer herself points that out. It just probably means my luck is low according to the article, which is kind of true at the moment. But it does point out that we do have some sort of race discrimination for our love interest. If you followed my progress on the experiment, you do see my discrimination for my partner as well. For some people, there is a good/valid reason while for some it isn’t.
So my single Asian brothers & black sisters, hope is not lost. Although the odds aren’t in our favour, it doesn’t mean we won’t get love. Go beat those odds & don’t get bummed down!